Starting Over

-5 Ways to Start over-

A lot of times, we fall short when we’re trying to complete our goals. But this doesn’t mean that it’s the end. Having to do a re-do is not a failure, it’s a new opportunity to makes things right, whatever the project or goal(s) may be, there’s never a reason to completely quit. Here are 5 ways to start over.

1. Accept losses/Failures

We all know that it sucks to loose or come up short, whether in a sporting event, competition or just trying to accomplish something worth fighting for, if the objective is not meant then its a loss but, believe it or not, there’s always a silver lining in loosing or failing. For some people they learn from their mistakes, which is an extremely important tool when achieving success. When we look back and analyze how and in what areas we failed short, we can take notes and try different things so the same mistakes won’t happen again. Thomas Edison failed at inventing the light bulb 1,000 times, yet he still didn’t give up. Mr. Edison, accepted all of those failures and losses and kept chasing his goal, how many of us would even attempt 50 tries to accomplish something, let alone 1,000.

2. Let go of the old

Letting go of what was is part of starting over. For a lot of us it can be one of the most difficult decisions we can make. But why do we often dwell in the past? why is so hard to let it go? For many of us it’s hard to let go of the past because of

• Emotional Trauma
• A Bad experience
• The inability to accept
• Fear/Judgement
• Comfort

There are times, some may require therapy to help deal with these reasons, but unfortunately we can’t change the past, everything in life is constantly moving forward, the way the world works it requires us to move on. Whether good or bad we can’t keep holding on to old events this can really delay growth in our lives and it can also ruin our future. Someone, once said that if he can go back at least 6 or 7 years into the past he would change so many things, this man isn’t too happy with how his life is now and he thinks that if he went back and perhaps try a little harder in school that he would have a much better job than he does now, he also thinks that he would undo an abundance amount of mistakes. This man used to think in a very unhealthy way about his current life not knowing his best moments are ahead of him; that man was me. I mean sure, tomorrow isn’t a sure thing but what if it is, each day that we wake up is another opportunity to start over, to forget all about yesterday and focus on the present. I recently had that realization myself, it can be done it’s going to take a lot of hard work and just a little faith, because sometimes that’s just the amount you need.

3. New PLan

Im sure we’ve all heard the expression “back to the old drawing board” before. There’s nothing wrong with coming up with new projects if our old ones didn’t work out. Sometimes, what we thought was the perfect idea or plan wasn’t the one for us and that’s ok. The same concept works for picking out a major, studies shows at least 80% of college students switch there major through out their college education. That’s a pretty big number, and not to say that there’s anything wrong with changing majors, but then again it does prolong the process, but the point is that its ok to go back and start over if plans or ideas don’t work out at first. Usually, this is the time of year when people start over, the start of the new year is the time when gyms get flooded with new members with new years resolution promises, many people also have a re-do when they experience a divorce in a marriage.

4. Make a Schedule

With some much going one in our lives, we can get easily sidetracked if we’re trying to accomplish a goal. Making a schedule can relieve some stress and put things in order. How many of us would make promises to our spouse or friends but we’d end breaking them because we wouldn’t remember them . Don’t worry it’s part of the imperfect package as a human, we’re naturally forgetful creatures. But scheduling our days in advance definitely helps, it also make time management more stable. Scheduling, is also helpful with procrastination. Some scientist came to the conclusion that, having a daily routine brings some people happiness. It’s very important that scheduling becomes a habit in our lives especially when starting over.

5. Cut ties with some people

It’s never ok to just completely shut someone off but, there are individuals that we should without a doubt to at least consider removing out of our lives. If your hanging around people who are not as goal oriented as yourself then it’s best to leave because there’s a strong chance that those individuals will bring you down with them. Examine your circle(without judging) what are your friends doing with their lives, how do they spend their weekends and nights, what substances do they put in their bodies? there are plenty more but, these are just the few things we should consider when we want to change our lives for the better. One of the most overlooked bible verse in 1 Corinthians 15:33 says “Don’t be deceived, bad company corrupts good character”. One version straight up says, “Bad friends will ruin good habits” if that’s not a crimson red flag then I don’t know what is. These are some of the things we should consider when we want to start over in our lives. IT’S NEVER TO LATE